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Would your wife consider if a huge offense if you viewed online porn?

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A little, but not enough to ask me to stop doing it.
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I see a headline “Online porn almost destroyed our marriage” from a Duck Dynasty guy. So I was wondering what he was doing with online porn to destroy the marriage.

Turns out he just looked at it, and there are evidently women who consider that really bad.

I find that hard to believe there are women would object to their husbands looking at a moderate amount of porn to the point of them considering leaving their husband, so I wanted to do a poll to see if I am wrong.

I understand you can do anything to excess. I am just talking about like 10 minutes a few times a week.
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Porn. Avoid it. Damages a man and belittles women. It will wound you and your spouse if you seek it out. It is a natural unavoidable consequence even if "she doesn't care" or "she likes it and watches it with me". Much like other moral sins... sometimes the damage is subtle.

Porn. No good. Avoid it.
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Normal men like naked women. If looking at naked girls is a problem for you, see a psychiatrist.
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I consider looking at porn to be an inappropriate activity ESPECIALLY if you have a wife. Go spend time with your wife and look at her when she is neked. It is not a question of "natural", it is a question of honoring your wife, even if "she don't care".

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Opposite views on "relationship fundamentals" (money, sex, child rearing, religion) don't tend to mix/end very well.

E.g. If one spouse enjoys such things and the other is offended by it, they're probably in a doomed relationship anyway.

If you like porn and she doesn't, it's time to move on and find someone who is more suitable. Life is much too short to put up with foolishness like that.
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Mine didn't mind at 1st, but after a few months she would "shame" me and shout "Horrible!" when she saw that I was watching.

Yet, she also complained that I wanted sex too often and wore her out. So I thought that "taking matters in hand" would help by both satisfying my needs and giving her a chance to recover.

Yet, She said it was like I was having sex w those women. So I returned to wearing her out.

There were also times that she "sat on my lap" while we viewed together. She didn't mind that and even kinda got her off better to have the visual cues. Like a water faucet running to help someone urinate.

With age I need and want it far less. So she constantly claims that I am "cheating w bitches from work."

Sometimes there's just no winning.

I even joke that I'll get a Doctor's note exempting me from my "bedroom duties" if she keeps hassling me. :(
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Mine doesnt like me looking at porn in front of her and I dont feel comfortable looking at porn in front of her so we have come to an agreement. Make no mistake about it . When guys looking at porn we are doing it while we are masturbating. If my wife wants to step up her game and do all the stuff the "actresses" do at a rate that I am comfortable with then I will be happy to stop watching porn. Otherwise we are on her schedule for actual sex and my schedule for virtual sex ( beating off ) .
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YugoRPK wrote:If my wife wants to step up her game and do all the stuff the "actresses" do at a rate that I am comfortable with then I will be happy to stop watching porn. Otherwise we are on her schedule for actual sex and my schedule for virtual sex.
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whiterussian1974 wrote:
YugoRPK wrote:If my wife wants to step up her game and do all the stuff the "actresses" do at a rate that I am comfortable with then I will be happy to stop watching porn. Otherwise we are on her schedule for actual sex and my schedule for virtual sex.
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... where are those thumbs up, exactly?

"Porn" is sanitized because it's on the internet, which keeps the women basically inaccessible from a physical view-point. But would your wife care if you were jacking it while holding binoculars and staring at the neighbor as she worked on her tan? How many houses away would she need to be before the comfort zone was reached for that level of porn?

And what about a peep show? Isn't that merely porn as well? When there is no interaction between the viewer and the performer, then it's relegated to a one-way, visual incident -- the very definition of porn. Is that acceptable?

I'm not necessarily arguing for or against the viewing of porn, I'm just pointing out that from a philosophical standpoint, it isn't significantly different than a myriad of similar activities that many of us would agree are not acceptable. So it's curious that an activity can be somehow be 'laundered' to the point of acceptable when that sort of 'white-washing' wouldn't fly for nearly every other social or relationship taboo.
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My wifes from Europe. Whole different attitude over there. Ive heard more than one time "If you want THAT your're going to have to hire a professional or get a mistress." She means it.
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My point exactly. Along the lines of Matthew 5:28
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I'm in Cancun right now scoping out the bikinis. So far I have start jerking off on the beach and I feel pretty good about that.
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YugoRPK wrote:I'm in Cancun right now scoping out the bikinis. So far I have start jerking off on the beach and I feel pretty good about that.
Did you mean "haven't?" Or are you just bragging? :lol:
Remember that viewing a woman's ankles or wrists was once viewed as "indecent." Today in many parts of the world it still is! Beekeeper outfits anyone?

Europeans are much more open about nature and don't often have Puritanical ideas. In fact, that's why Puritans were driven out of England, and eventually came to North Amer.

If we are all made in God's image, why are people ashamed of God's Image?

Porn is defined by "local standards," but to me I say that nudity isn't porn. Overly familiar touching can be. Cold weather Training for SEALs and Marines could be considered "unnatural knowledge" of another man. Yet body heat keeping me alive is more important than a Levitical passage.

Being in the "eye of the Beholder" reminds me of the Family Guy episode where Peter Griffin sues his MD for a Prostate Exam. Clearly a case of Sodomy. Yet in the end (pun) Peter learns an important lesson about Tolerance and the need for medical exams.

And yes, viewing other women lustfully does lead to desires and potentially unacceptable actions. Yet there are degrees and "the lessor of evils" principle. I watch Forensic Files and True Crime/CSI-type shows, yet have never committed Arson, Rape, Murder. Same w Action films. Never exploded a building, hijacked a Christmas party to steal Bearer Bonds, or hacked the NSA. Entertainment is a pressure relief valve that allows the viewer to act vicariously, without ever actually committing such deeds. Are Romantic Comedies porn? Yes. They are "emotional porn" that often cause entanglements that lead to more problems in family life than Uncle Joe watching a "dirty movie."

I don't watch violent porn where people slap or spit on each other. Neither FemDom or humiliation/scat. But a highschool geek getting attacked by 4 gorgeous babes; Heck Yeah! That's MY kind of fantasy.
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ick wrote:My point exactly. Along the lines of Matthew 5:28
.... well now I have to Google that.
But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
I don't consider myself particularly lazy, but isn't it a touch presumptuous to think we would know what that Bible verse is without having to specifically look it up?

AND, it says nothing about checking out a dude with a lustful eye:
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Dr Phil is full of s--t too.
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YugoRPK wrote:Dr Phil is full of s--t too.
I don't understand... does Dr. Phil have a nice, work-out butt too?
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whiterussian1974 wrote:And yes, viewing other women lustfully does lead to desires and potentially unacceptable actions. Yet there are degrees and "the lessor of evils" principle. I watch Forensic Files and True Crime/CSI-type shows, yet have never committed Arson, Rape, Murder. Same w Action films. Never exploded a building, hijacked a Christmas party to steal Bearer Bonds, or hacked the NSA. Entertainment is a pressure relief valve that allows the viewer to act vicariously, without ever actually committing such deeds. Are Romantic Comedies porn? Yes. They are "emotional porn" that often cause entanglements that lead to more problems in family life than Uncle Joe watching a "dirty movie."

I don't watch violent porn where people slap or spit on each other. Neither FemDom or humiliation/scat. But a highschool geek getting attacked by 4 gorgeous babes; Heck Yeah! That's MY kind of fantasy.
... I don't get why you'd boast about never blowing up Christmas NSA buildings, or hacking a Bearer explosion... thing... I don't know what you said. I just know you accidentally exposed the boring nature of your life, and you don't even have the decency to be ashamed.

Side-note: I recall reading that fire investigators sometimes look for signs of semen at a fire scene, since true pyromaniacs often literally get-off on the blaze. It'd be nice for me to light a candle and see a little boob jiggling at the end of the wick, or roast some marshmallows over an especially shapely posterior. Just pointing out the lunacy of jacking to a fire.
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TROOPER wrote:I don't consider myself particularly lazy, but isn't it a touch presumptuous to think we would know what that Bible verse is without having to specifically look it up?
I wouldn't call it presumptuous. If the reader doesn't know... it is recognizable and easy to find. I find myself using google quite a bit to "translate" acronyms and cultural references I do not recognize.... on ST. It was not my intention to provide an inappropriate amount of work to understand my point. Perhaps I was trying to be too curt.

The point I was trying to make isn't to focus on:

Example A: "I have needs, they must be filled, you won't provide me everything I need, get over it honey, I have needs, it is your fault I look at porn."

I certainly understand this perspective, but it seems the perspective sought by the OP isn't asking about the "tough s--t honey" perspective. If you want to know how a man might feel about it, well then there is Example A.

If you are asking about WOMAN being bothered by a husband viewing pictures.... then it comes down to the "heart" of the man, doesn't it?

At the root it seems to me that she is bothered that her man seeks satisfaction elsewhere. It is like weeding a garden by clipping weeds at the stem. Looking at porn is the above-ground symptom. It is the root of the weed that brings destruction. The "heart" of her man not satisfied and on some level, NOT FAITHFUL, even if it is simply the lust of the eyes.

Ergo Matthew 8:28
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OR.....
There is no seed of destruction or marriage disintegration. It's just a guy beating off in front of a computer screen looking at chick's he doesn't know or really care about in the slightest. Dont read too much into beating off.
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I probably just needed a nap. I got up and put on my 'cranky pants' that day. Sorry about that.

Side note, the idea of a jiggling chestical at the end of a candle-wick continues to intrigue me. Someone like that probably thinks the forest fires in California are synonymous with a Romanesque orgy.
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YugoRPK wrote:OR.....
There is no seed of destruction or marriage disintegration. It's just a guy beating off in front of a computer screen looking at chick's he doesn't know or really care about in the slightest. Dont read too much into beating off.
Hmmm. Interesting observation. I hadn't brought up that in my experience it IS a seed that sews destruction and contributes to disintegration of the relationship. I guess we can disagree on that.

Do you concede that it does wound your wife emotionally? That was the original question.

The point is not what a man's feelings are... but what does your WIFE feel. It is not really answered by a justification of your choices or a validation of your activity as right, wrong, or morally neutral.

Am I being clear?
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The original question is also vague: what are 'pics'? I routinely jack to nonsexual violence. I do this because converting my wife into a "pulled-pork sandwich" is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity as opposed to a routine activity. Am I to live my life with blue (blood-red?) balls simply because she can't facilitate my mental disorder?
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ick wrote:
YugoRPK wrote:OR.....
There is no seed of destruction or marriage disintegration. It's just a guy beating off in front of a computer screen looking at chick's he doesn't know or really care about in the slightest. Dont read too much into beating off.
Hmmm. Interesting observation. I hadn't brought up that in my experience it IS a seed that sews destruction and contributes to disintegration of the relationship. I guess we can disagree on that.

Do you concede that it does wound your wife emotionally? That was the original question.

The point is not what a man's feelings are... but what does your WIFE feel. It is not really answered by a justification of your choices or a validation of your activity as right, wrong, or morally neutral.

Am I being clear?
My wife is not American by birth. That does mean a lot. Attitudes vary by culture. If you "cheat" on an American woman even by spanking you own monkey they consider it the end if the marriage. Negro please. . Most Europeans just want you to be discrete about it IF it's a real woman. Your fist they could care less about.
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Sounds like a culture difference then.
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